A thriving marriage is anchored upon the pillars of mutual respect, love, compromise, compassion and equality. The strength of this intricate relationship hinges on partners tactfully navigating their gender roles and responsibilities, while finding a shared middle ground to stand by each other's side through thick and thin.
At ImamConnect, we empower couples to explore and redefine gender roles- while striking a perfect balance between personal aspirations, domestic responsibilities and professional commitments. Through our tailored, personalized Marital Counselling sessions, we help Muslim couples feel more emotionally charged and bonded with each other, equipping them with the right tools to rekindle lost love and intimacy- leading to a resilient and fulfilling marriage.
Understanding Gender Roles in Marital Relationships
According to StudySmarter, gender roles refer to "the societal expectations and beliefs about how men and women should behave and what constitutes masculinity and femininity." In the context of marriage, it stands for the “prescribed cultural norms, societal expectations and the division of responsibilities assigned to each gender.”
Gender roles play an instrumental role in shaping the relationship dynamics and expectations- reinforcing a division of labour, where men are expected to bear the financial burdens of the family, while women are responsible for childbearing and rearing. In recent years, conventional discussions around traditional gender roles and role-reversed relationships have significantly transformed. Muslim men these days are more open to child rearing and partaking in domestic responsibilities, while Muslim women equally shoulder the financial burdens of their partner.
Still, one cannot deny the fact that gender roles have historically perpetuated inequalities, biases and stereotypes, reaffirming the idea that certain qualities, professions and chores are intrinsically masculine or feminine. Even a recent study found that stereotypical gender notions still hold a pervasive power over both men and women, unveiling how marital relationships with role-reverse dynamics were more susceptible to divorce and lower levels of marital satisfaction.
\We need to understand that gender roles within marriages must not be confined to equitable division of responsibilities only, but it should also include shared decision-making, open communication and inspiring each other to pursue personal dreams and aspirations. Marriage is all about standing with each other through highs and lows to cultivate a deep sense of reverence and trust- so your partner feels valued, heard and supported.
Balancing Work, Home and Child Rearing Responsibilities
Family life demands sacrifices and compromises, where both partners must juggle to maintain a healthy balance between work life and home life. Children require time and attention, making rearing a daunting task, particularly for working parents. We live in times where both Muslim men and women must consider themselves equally responsible for nurturing children, managing domestic chores and fulfilling professional responsibilities.
Even as financial burdens have become more equal in marriages, the way men and women balance their personal and professional obligations still remains deranged. While men expend more time on work and leisure, women shoulder a greater burden when it comes to managing domestic chores and caregiving. This constant "mental load" takes a toll on a woman’s physical and emotional health, leading to burnout effects and lower relationship satisfaction levels.
Despite wearing many hats, Muslim working women still struggle to voice their core concerns and hesitate to share their experiences of being forced to pick between career and family life. Many marriages end due to these unrealistic expectations, where one partner is overladen with responsibilities and forced to suffer in silence.
How Marital Counselling can Salvage Struggling Marriages
Marital Counselling can breathe new life into relationships on the verge of divorce or separation. It enables couples to redefine gender roles, ensure equitable division of responsibilities and establish realistic expectations. It offers a safe and open space, where couples can openly express their suppressed emotions and struggles, identify unresolved conflicts, and work towards effective parenting styles.
Marital Counsellors at ImamConnect are well-versed in the unique challenges Muslim couples face, such as cultural sensitivities, conflicts within extended families and outdated gender roles and societal expectations. Through their faith-based approaches, they help Muslim couples navigate their spousal obligations, in light of the Holy Quran and Sunnah's teachings, strengthening their spiritual bond with Allah.
Muslim couples often hesitate to contact mainstream counsellors because they lack a profound understanding of Islamic values and cultural sensitivities that shape their marital experiences and struggles. Islam encourages believers to foster strong family bonds, show utmost love and respect to their spouses, and be kind and caring towards their children.
At ImamConnect, we understand that faith plays an integral role in building a supportive and inclusive environment, where Muslim couples can openly share their needs and concerns, while staying true to the beliefs and values that define them.
Our highly-qualified and experienced Marital Counsellors are proficient in faith-based approaches and cultural nuances and can help you resolve conflicts, improve communication, revive trust, heal past wounds, and strengthen your emotional bond. Through their personalized guidance, you can address disputes related to role dynamics, division of responsibilities, miscommunication, emotional intimacy, and work and home life balance.
ImamConnect believes that a marriage thrives on shared responsibilities, mutual reverence, collective decision-making, open communication and empowerment of both partners. And this is only possible by exploring the evolving dynamics of gender roles. Our team of Marriage Counsellors can help you better understand your better half's unique passions, individual strengths and aspirations, so together you can dismantle centuries-old gender biases and societal expectations.
So what are you waiting for? Book a session now and embark on your journey towards fostering a healthier, long-lasting, and stronger marital bond with your soul-mate.